Monthly Archives: October 2009

Pat Buchanan among us

October 6, 2009
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No work ethic?

No work ethic?

The other day, while researching a story about diversity on Wall Street, I interviewed the author of a book on anti-discrimination laws. Our conversation reminded me of the debate between Rachel Maddow and Pat Buchanan during the Supreme Court nomination hearings for Justice Sonia Sotamayor.

Remember when Buchanan went on Maddow’s show and explained why most of our Supreme Court justices have been white men? He said, “White men were one hundred percent of the people that wrote the Constitution, one hundred percent of the people that signed the Declaration of Independence, one hundred percent of the people who died at Gettysburg and Vicksburg, probably close to one hundred percent of the people who died at Normandy. This has been a country built basically by white folks…That’s why.”

You can watch the clip here.

It’s easy to mock Buchanan, roll your eyes, dismiss him and think, “Well he’s just playing for the camera in an attempt to get ratings.” Hello Ladies, that mentality exists — not just on the TV, but in everyday life.

This author I was talking to dismissed gender discrimination in the workplace as no longer explicit but now subtle; institutional. My own work experience backs that up. But that doesn’t make it any less wrong. He seemed to think it did. He said claims of hostile work environments were bad practice and cause anxiety on the end of the people who may have offended.  How unfair of us to stress out those who discriminate! I was already getting annoyed and then this man channeled Buchanan.

He said, the reason we don’t see more women in senior management positions on Wall Street is because of work ethic — women don’t work as hard as men. He said “the white guys with the Ivy league degrees are running so scared of losing out due to affirmative action and quota hiring practices” that they work 24/7 to protect their jobs.

He and I seemed to agree on two things:

  1. It is a problem there aren’t more women in senior management positions. But I see the problem as a lack of diverse thinking at the top, and proof that discrimination exists and outdated workplace policies make managing family and career difficult. And he sees the problem as the reason those already in power have to work so hard to defend their positions.
  2. Workplace discrimination is often subtle and hard to fight. But he seems to think don’t fight it and I find myself thinking how, how do we fight it?

Wage Gap Widens

October 5, 2009
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I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Hello Men: you suffer too when you pay women less than you pay men for comparable work. I don’t mean to blame everything on men, but the reality is men still dominate management positions in this country. They hold 85 percent of all board seats, the majority of executive positions, and run 95 percent of the companies in the Fortune 500.

My husband knows the drill. If I bring home less than my fair share of wages, then he, a stay-at-home-father, has less money to run the household. Less money for groceries, less money for the kids, less money to pay the bills, less money to fill the gas tank, less money for his fantasy football team (it costs money to manage a team).

Why are we talking about this now? It’s not Equal Pay Day; the one day a year this subject gets any significant attention. And President Obama signed the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Restoration Act back in January. Here’s why: The. Wage. Gap. Has. Widened. That’s right. Last year’s data from the U.S. Census Bureau showed women earning, on average .78 cents for every dollar a man earned. The new data shows women are earning .77 cents. That’s. Not. Progress.

Not only is it not progress (and not fair). It’s foolish. With traditional male dominated jobs hit hardest by the recession, there will soon be more women on the national payroll then there are men. If these women are earning less than their fair share, their families, and the economy will suffer. Groceries, gasoline, doctor’s bills – none of it becomes 23 percent less expensive when a woman is paying for it. And if families are living off less than fair wages, there is less available income to pour back into the supposed recovering economy.

It’s not just my husband who should be upset by the wage gap. We need to reverse the trend and close the gap. Click here to take action and send a message: No More Pay Discrimination on the Basis of Gender.

Read more on this topic here.

View the data here.

Why I Hate Breasts

October 2, 2009
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breast cancerBreasts. I hate them. They are nothing but trouble.

A few months ago, I found a lump in my right breast. As I waited to see my doctor, I imagined what might happen. Best case scenario: there would be no lump. I’d have imagined it and would get felt up for no good reason by some man who couldn’t even remember my name. It wouldn’t be the first time. Pretty darn good scenario: It would be a cyst and I would have to lie topless on a table surrounded by strangers with big needles who wanted to aspirate it. Aspirate, you see, is a fancy word for lance. Worst case scenario: my breasts would kill me. After all, breasts killed my aunt and they killed an estimated 40,000 American women last year alone.

I was lucky. It was a cyst. But may I just say I think it sucks that I have these two potentially deadly inconveniences hanging off the front of me. I didn’t ask for them. And had I been given a choice, I would have said, “No thanks.”

No thanks, I don’t want to spend money on bras at $30 a pop for the rest of my life. My idea of accessorizing isn’t a sports bra, a lace bra, and a bra that works under white t-shirts. I’ll spend my money on shoes thank you very much.

No thanks, I don’t want men looking at my chest instead of my face when I talk to them.

No thanks, I won’t miss getting mammograms. I can always just walk naked into a crowded room if I have an overwhelming need to experience discomfort.

No thanks, I think I have enough PMS symptoms. Moodswings, pimples and cramps are good enough for me. I don’t need tender breasts every month too.

And no thank you, I don’t need my body parts to relocate after I have children. My c-section scar is memento enough.

Now before La Leche comes after me, let me just say that I nursed my children. I am both appreciative and awed by the fact that my body could grow and then nourish a human life. But why did it have to be breasts?

But breasts it is. So please, remind the women in your life to get an annual mammogram and give them a hug. Just don’t try to cop a feel while you do it.

Real Stories of Maternity Leave

October 1, 2009
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Hello Ladies. Check out our October feature story, “Real Stories of Maternity Leave.”

Here’s an excerpt:

These stories aren’t uncommon. Many women cobble together vacation, sick time and disability so they can afford to stay home for a month or two after giving birth. Or they return to work only to learn their bonus has been cut and they’ve fallen out of favor. And many of them walk away without a fight, because they are exhausted, worried about the repurcussions, and focused on their future.

Even the women who consider their experience a positive one, are working during leave, losing needed income, and returning to work sleep deprived only to express breast milk in bathrooms, airports and company parking lots. As one nonprofit fundraiser who did not want her name mentioned said, “(Having a baby) is a precious time in life and it should be very sacred. But the fact is women have to rush through the process and hurry back to work and pump in a closet.”

Welcome Ladies

October 1, 2009
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HL quoteI travel in two crowds. The first is a group of amazing women –feminists who are articulate, engaged and sometimes outraged by the status of women and women’s rights. They are activists, writers, and all around really cool chicks (although some of them might take offense at the term “chicks”).  I don’t really spend that much time with them outside of Facebook, Twitter, blogs and Google groups. But I admire, respect and relate to them and to many others. 

The second is another group of amazing women – my friends and neighbors – mothers who are committed to their families – especially their children, and are involved in the schools and their communities.  I do hang out with them, when our  schedules permit, and I also admire, respect and relate to them.  Unlike the first group of women, this group rarely mentions feminism and may not even self identify as feminists.

On paper, these two groups appear radically different. But I know there is plenty of common ground. Group one discusses equal pay, reproductive rights, violence against women, misogynistic media practices. Group two is more likely to talk about Drop Dead Diva, soccer practice and PTO. But their lives are impacted just as much by the first set of issues. And I think to myself, “Hello Ladies, you need to hear this.”

  • Hello Ladies: Did you know women earn, on average, .78 cents for every dollar a man earns? That’s means less  income for your family.
  • Hello Ladies: A pregnant women was recently jailed because she might harm her fetus. Are you a perfect mother? Watch out you could be incarcerated next.
  • Hello Ladies: Yes I love Real Housewives of New Jersey too, but did you know reality TV perpetuates sexist stereotypes?
  • Hello Ladies: You have a shoe addiction. No problem there actually. I do too.

I’m not asking you to burn your bra (although you can if you want to), or to march on Washington. All I ask is that you visit Hello Ladies from time to time to chat about the things that matter to women (and sign the occasional petition) whether that is feminism, politics, family, work, or my personal favorite, shoes.  Hello Ladies, this site is for you.

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