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Plus Sized Pageants Challenge Beauty Norms

June 18, 2013
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Plus Sized Pageants Challenge Beauty Norms

Yesterday I bashed beauty pageants. Today I want to share a short documentary about them. There She Is is a film about plus size beauty contests. The filmmakers followed two plus size pageant queens as they prepared for and competed in a pageant. In the film (which is only 19 minutes long), the contestants, Allison Kopach and Jenny Flores, talk about their lives as plus size women – how they perceive themselves, how others perceive them, the challenges of dating, and why they wear full hair and makeup just to shop for groceries. Even though the average dress size for American woman is a 14, it’s considered plus size in the fashion industry. It’s not easy to find clothing in that size; designers mostly ignore bigger body types and make clothes for much smaller bodies. And it’s very, very rare to catch a glimpse of any woman bigger than a size 6 in fashion magazines or in ads for women’s products. In a world where thin is considered a bigger accomplishment than an Academy award and a major magazine publishes an actresses’ weight on its cover, we need films like this. We need to be reminded that there is more to a woman [...]

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Miss USA Pageant Tackles the Wage Gap

June 17, 2013
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Miss USA Pageant Tackles the Wage Gap

I have no business passing judgement on someone for flubbing the answer to a question on camera in front of a live audience (I can ramble with the best of them), but this clip from last night’s Miss USA Pageant is just too precious not to share. (Thanks to all of you who emailed it to me this morning.) When asked, “A recent report shows that in 40 percent of American families with children women are the primary earners yet they continue to earn less than men – what does this say about society?” Miss Utah responded, ”I think we can relate this back to education, and how we are continuing to try to strive to … figure out how to create jobs right now. That is the biggest problem and I think, especially men are seen as the leaders of this, and so we need to try to figure out how to create education better. So that we can solve this problem. Thank you.” The clip is precious not because Miss Utah’s answer was awful. It’s precious because an organization that bills its contestants as “savvy, goal-oriented and aware,” that describes itself as “a global community empowering role models of beauty, health and [...]

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Let’s Hear It for Fathers

June 16, 2013
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Let’s Hear It for Fathers

Let’s hear it for fathers on Father’s Day. Let’s hear it for the stay-at-home-fathers. These men are helping pave a path forward for more men to pursue primary caregiver roles if that’s what they want to do, and, by default, for more women to pursue a breadwinning role if that’s what they want to do. Census Bureau data estimates there are approximately 189,000 stay-at-home fathers (married men with children younger than 15). Let’s hear it for the fathers who take paternity leave. Hello Ladies’ informal research shows that when fathers take leave separate from mothers, it leads to more satisfaction in the home. Both parents gain an appreciation for what it takes to care for a baby and manage the house. Plus, if more men took time away from work after the birth of a child, it might take away some of the stigma surrounding women taking time away. And while we’re at it, let’s hear it for Yahoo! and Google. They offer seven and 8 weeks respectively of paternity leave. Let’s hear it for fathers who do their fair share at home. Pew Research data shows fathers’ time with children has increased to almost seven hours per week and [...]

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Stop Telling Women What They Shouldn’t Do

June 8, 2013
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Stop Telling Women What They Shouldn’t Do

During this week’s Senate Armed Services hearing on sexual assault, Senator John McCain said that he could not support women joining the armed services due to the rape crisis. Also in the news this week was a high school teacher who delivered the commencement speech at an Indiana high school. Peter Heck had this message for the senior girls: “If you choose to have a career, God’s blessings upon you, but I challenge you to recognize what the world scoffs at…that your greatest role of your life will be that of wife and mother…To solve the problems plaguing our society, we don’t need more women as CEOs, we need more women as invested mothers.” You know what woman need? We need men to stop telling us where we should and should not go. Believe me, we already know. While McCain’s goal is clearly to protect women from assault, his thoughts are misplaced. We shouldn’t be talking about holding women back from opportunity. We should be talking about keeping rapists from enlisting. And while Heck clearly values family – certainly not a bad thing – his outdated gender roles are restrictive. He told the senior boys,  “To solve the problems plaguing [...]

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Heroine of the Week: Senator Claire McCaskill

June 6, 2013
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Heroine of the Week: Senator Claire McCaskill

We have a new heroine of the week. During the Senate Armed Services hearing on sexual assault in the military, Senator Claire McCaskill not only held the military accountable for the rape epidemic, she also schooled top brass on the fact rape is not about sex; it’s about domination and violence. Here she is in action.

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Allure, Disney Remind Us We’re Not Thin Enough

May 19, 2013
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Allure, Disney Remind Us We’re Not Thin Enough

Is it any wonder that in the United States approximately 20 million women suffer from an eating disorder at some time in their life? Or that “by age 6, girls especially start to express concerns about their own weight or shape.” Up to sixty percent of elementary school girls are concerned about becoming too fat. According to MissRepresentation.org, American teenagers spend more than 10 hours consuming media every day.  Girls between the ages of 11 and 14 see, on average, 500 ads a day. And what they see when they tune in are constant reminders that their value comes from how thin and pretty they are, and that you can never be thin or pretty enough. The latest reminders came from Allure magazine and Disney. On it’s June cover, Allure features Star Trek actress Zoe Saldana. The headline accompanying Ms. Saldana’s photo?  “Zoe Saldana: 115 Pounds of Grit and Heartache” On it’s Facebook page, Allure posted. “The girl is a powerhouse. And we were so impressed by what a tough, confident woman Saldana is (on-screen, in her action-movie roles, and off) that we wanted to capture that. Uh, huh. Perhaps then the headline could have read, ““Zoe Saldana: This Girl’s Got [...]

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A Feminist Mom Goes Shopping

April 27, 2013
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A Feminist Mom Goes Shopping

My kids need some new t-shirts so I checked out the Avenger-themed apparel from Marvel Comics. I can buy my daughter the “I Need a Hero” shirt pictured on the left if I want to send her the message that girls need rescuing, don’t grow up to be leaders, and finding the right guy will solve all of her problems. No getting rescued for my son though. Apparently, he needs to be the hero. I can buy him the “Be a Hero” shirt on the right if I want to reinforce the idea of man as provider, and underscore the many messages he receives that he must be strong and tough at all times. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a hero and certainly heroism can manifest in many different ways. But when apparel companies create two strikingly different messages for girls and boys, they’re feeding into narrow gender roles that aren’t helpful in today’s world. When you consider, for instance, that both the number of female breadwinners and the number of stay-at-home fathers are increasing, you can see just one example of why and how our ideas of traditional gender roles need to evolve. If we want to [...]

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Talking About Gender at Work

April 22, 2013
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Talking About Gender at Work

I used to be that woman. You know, the feminist, at work. I tried not to be. I resisted for a long time. But as I neared my 40s, things just started flying out of my mouth. I questioned men when they referred to “girls” in the office or at client sites. “Are they under 18? No? Then they’re not girls.” I explained to a male coworker why it was problematic that he said of a coworker on maternity leave, “She probably won’t come back.” I asked my CEO why, when he was scrambling for a fourth to play golf with a client, he didn’t ask any of the female executives to tee off. I began writing: op-eds about the wage gap, then blog posts about gender bias in performance reviews. I started this blog. I knew it was risky business, being that woman, but I just didn’t stop. And then Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, published “Lean In.” And in doing so she’s removed the stigma of being that woman. Sheryl Sandberg has created a safer environment for us to have important discussions about gender at work, and for that I’m grateful. Recently I attended a breakfast sponsored by [...]

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Sheryl Sandberg: Your Daughter Needs Tech Camp and an iPad

April 10, 2013
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Sheryl Sandberg: Your Daughter Needs Tech Camp and an iPad

My son attends an enrichment program for students in grades 4 – 8 at an area prep school. Students in the program can choose from math, literature, science, computer technology, art and drama courses. This past session, when they called the names of the students in the Engineering course, there wasn’t a single girl in the group. It made me sad. We need to encourage our daughters to pursue classses and ultimately careers in sciene, technology, engineering and math (STEM). Last week, while addressing the Boston start-up community, Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg pointed out STEM careers pay more than others. If more women entered these fields, she said, it would help close the gender-based wage gap. Her advice to parents: enroll your daughter in tech camp and get her an iPad. Check out this great infographic from TechSchool.com for more reasons we want women and girls in STEM. Courtesy of: Techschool.com

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More About Equal Pay

April 9, 2013
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More About Equal Pay

I’m over at the Huffington Post today with more thoughts on Equal Pay Day. It may sound trivial but how unfair is it that women spend more to go to work and then get paid less when they get there? Haircut – at least $10 more than a man’s cut Color – just try to go gray before retirement Mascara  - $8 minimum Lipstick – $2 minimum, unless you have fine lines forming around your lips – and then, $12 minimum Manicure – $10-$20 (you can skip it in Boston, but not New York or LA) Tampons, nylons, tights… men don’t need these things. And don’t even try to suggest any of this is optional; studies have shown well-groomed people get ahead. And there may not be any studies on this, but I doubt many women make it to the C-suite wearing drugstore cosmetics. A high-end job calls for a high-end cosmetics line. You can read my Huffington Post article here. And then, urge your legislators to pass the Paycheck Fairness Act. Women earn .77 cents, on average for every dollar a man earns. It’s time to close the gap.    

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