Hollywood film star and AIDS activist Elizabeth Taylor died today at the age of 79.
Hollywood film star and AIDS activist Elizabeth Taylor died today at the age of 79.
We love the holidays because we have time to finish all of the books we’ve started during the year. The house is clean, the office is closed and the parties are over. We just sit in front of the fire and turn pages. Need some reading recommendations? Here are our top five picks:
“No Excuses:9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think About Power” by Gloria Feldt
Gloria Feldt is a powerhouse – and she knows how to use her power for the greater good. She’s a leader, a mentor, and an inspiration. This book will clear your path to success, stripping away any of the barriers you think are in your way.
“A is for Asshole: The Grownups’ ABCs of Conflict Resolution“ by Victoria Pynchon.
You know how inspired we’ve been by the She Negotiates course –read the book from one of the course leaders. You too can master the conflicts in your life.
“Her Place at the Table” by Deborah M. Kolb, PhD; Judith Williams, PhD; Carol Frolinger, JD
“Her Place at the Table” is another great book grounded in negotiating skills that helps women navigate the challenges of the business world. The authors do a fantastic job of mixing research and real life stories to instruct and inspire women.
“Reality Bites Back: The Troubling Truth About Guilty Pleasure TV” by Jennifer L. Pozner
Pozner is is founder and executive director of Women In Media & News (WIMN), a media analysis, education and advocacy group. We haven’t cracked this book yet, but we’re looking forward to reading it. Pozner promises to debunk the fairy tales, beauty myths and negative stereotyping of women served up nightly on reality tv shows. If you’ve got a “Real Housewives” habit like we do, read this book.
“The War on Moms: On Life in a Family-Unfriendly Nation” by Sharon Lerner
This is a must-read for mothers, their families, and the people who employee them. Lerner lays out the realities of women trying to manage work, maternity leave, childcare, and careers.
Happy Holidays and happy reading!
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A new report from the Parents Television Council (PTC), Tinseltown’s New Target: A study of Teen Female Sexualization on Primetime TV, shows a disturbingly high amount of sexualized image of teen girls on primetime television. The study follows PTC’s report from last November about the increase in incidences of violence against women on television.
Teenage girls are becoming Hollywood’s sexualized ideal. Consider these findings from the study:
“The presence of an underage female was associated with higher amounts of sexual depictions compared to the onscreen appearance of an adult female. Though an older female character is more likely to have sexual dialogue in the scene, a younger female character is more likely portrayed in sexual behaviors onscreen.”
and
“Only 5% of the underage female characters communicated any form of dislike for being sexualized.”
The study defines sexualized as “the act or process of sexualizing,” meaning making the girl or act sexual in nature. The American Psychological Association (APA) regards a person as being sexualized if:
PTC identified the top 25 primetime shows for kids age 12-17, and viewed only those that were scripted. The study is based on The Office, NCIS, Two and a Half Men, The Big Bang Theory, The Vampire Diaries, Grey’s Anatomy, Desperate Housewives, Lost, Family Guy, House, Glee, The Cleveland Show, American Dad, and The Simpsons.
The organization found that “underage female characters are shown participating in a higher percentage of sexual depictions compared to adults (47% and 29% respectively)” and that
93 percent of the sexual incidents among underage female characters were classified as unhealthy according to the APA definition. Furthermore the data shows that 73 percent of the underage sexualized incidents were presented as humor.
But there’s nothing funny about it. Television is powerful and it amplifies what we are experiencing in so many other mediums: advertising, magazines, books (Twilight, anyone?). We can tell our daughters to turn off the boob-tube, but they’ll still get the message that society expects them to be young, pretty and “hot. “You can read the full report online. It contains a section, copied from an APA report, called “What Parents Can Do.” The suggestions include:
- Watch TV and movie s and read magazines and websites with your children so you can discuss the images they encounter.
- Educate your children about healthy and unhealthy relationships. Don’t expect them to know, especially when their favorite characters are engaged in unhealthy relationships (Twilight anyone?)
- Tell your child why you don’t like a show, a character or a song’s lyrics.
- Speak up to the retailers, publishers, producers and advertisers who push hyper-sexual images on young girls.
You can also visit So Sexy So Soon for more tips on dealing with the media’s portrayal of girls. It’s not easy. My kids know exactly how I feel about the reshaped and sculpted Scooby Gang, but my daughter would still rather be a Daphne than a Thelma. She’s nowhere near old enough to watch primetime television, but she gets her full share of pretty, dumbed-down girl characters on Nickelodeon and The Disney Channel.
And don’t forget about your sons. How do we raise them to respect women if they are spoon-fed a media diet of pretty, submissive young things? If any of you have success stories, cautionary tales or helpful hints, we’d love to hear them.

Say goodbye to the boots
To get your week started, here’s a quick roundup of news affecting women from around the world and the web.
In Switzerland, the government has declared Roman Polanski a free man by stating they will not extradite him to the United States. He has reportedly been released from house arrest. Unless Polanski moves to another country that would extradite him, the case seems to be closed. Polanski fled the U.S. in 1978 following sentencing for what the media is calling “having sex with a 13 year old girl.” We call it rape.
Speaking of Hollywood, Mel Gibson has been accused of domestic violence. While I doubt the economy has anything to do with Gibson’s charges, we are noticing an increase in domestic violence incidences reported in our local police logs. Studies show a correlation between economic stress and domestic violence. Get the facts on domestic violence — how to get help, warning signs, etc. — here.
The women who work at “The Daily Show with Jon Stewart” have jumped to defend their workplace following allegations of a sexist culture from Jezebel. If I wanted to keep my job (speaking of the recession) I probably would have signed on to the letter too, no matter what the reality was. The she-said she-said is, for us, just another reminder that popular culture is really male culture and will be until we see more women behind anchor desks, hosting late night television, leading drive time radio shows and publishing op-eds.
In Iran, Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani, the woman sentenced to stoning after being convicted of adultery, has been granted a reprieve, at least temporarily. However, her fate is still unclear. Care2 will continue to have information on AShtiani as well as petitions to help protect her.
And in lighter news, iconic superhero Wonder Woman recently got a makeover and a new back story. According to the New York Times, “In the reimagining of her story, Wonder Woman, instead of growing up on Paradise Island with her mother, Queen Hippolyta, and her Amazon sisters, is smuggled out as a baby when unknown forces destroy her home and slaughter its inhabitants.”
Too bad Diana Prince couldn’t retain her powerful past as an Amazon and instead is now a victim of unknown forces. As far as her wardrobe, the new writer of the series, J. Michael Straczynski, wanted to “toughen her up”. I don’t see much gain in swapping out her original outfit for skin tight pants and another low cut shirt. In fact, I think taking away her fabulous boots, o! those boots, is a total loss. Feminist writer Shelby Knox has an interesting analysis on Wonder Woman’s new image at the Women’s Media Center.
And finally, the new Scooby Doo series, Scooby Doo Mystery Inc. starts tonight. My children are thrilled. I am not. As we’ve previously reported, the new Daphne appears to be 20 pounds lighter and Velma’s breasts have increased a few cup sizes. It is very hard to manage media and marketing messages to little girls that pretty and thin trump all. To see a picture of the new Scooby Gang, click here. And to send a message to the Cartoon Network that our kids need healthy characters, you can use this form.
Here’s the Hello Ladies guide to this summer’s most anticipated movies. From the previews, it is unlikely that many of them will pass the simple Bechdel Test. The Bechdel test has just three criteria. Does the movie:
“Hot Tub Time Machine” is about four guys who party in a hot tub then wake up in 1986. Even though it stars my teenage crush John Cusack, I think I’ll pass.
“Grown Ups” starring Adam Sandler is about five guys who bring their families together one summer. The movie’s tagline is “Boys will be boys… some longer than others.” Enough said.
“Jonah Hex” stars Josh Brolin as a badly scarred bounty hunter chasing a terrorist and Megan Fox as a prostitute with a gun. Riveting.
“The Twilight Saga: Eclipse” might pass the test even though its another installment in the story of Edward stalking Bella. I’ll take Buffy any day.
“Knight and Day” stars Tom Cruise and Cameron Diaz as a fugitive couple doing lots of stunts. It was filmed in Boston and for that reason alone I might go see it.
“The Last Airbender” M. Night Shyamalan, avatars, action, adventure – if anyone else can make any more sense of it let me know.
“Despicable Me” is an animated 3D film about the evil Gru (voice of Steve Carell) who is planning to steal the moon until he meets three orphan girls who have different plans for him. This one has potential.
“Salt” Angeline Jolie looks hot in pencil skirts playing a CIA agent who jumps on moving cars and trains.
What gives Hollywood? Is it too much to ask for a movie starring women that I can relate to? You know, something that speaks to the issues I care about: the plight of women across the globe, career, fashion, parenting. Oh wait. You tried that. And it sucked.
Update: Toy Story 3 is a great movie. Check it out.
Happy 2010. We hope you had a fun holiday season. We did. So much fun in fact we are finding it hard to focus on the serious stuff today. So instead, we bring you news of what will surely be the next bestselling book. Next week Simon & Schuster is releasing a biography on actor Warren Beatty. Titled, “Star: How Warren Beatty Seduced America,” and written by Peter Biskind the book discusses Beatty’s influence and control in Hollywood, his political involvement, and his legendary love life.
It is, of course, his love life, that is capturing headlines today. Apparently, the book claims that Beatty, star of “Splendor in the Grass” and “Dick Tracy” slept with 12,775 women. Although, according to a story in the New York Post, biographer Biskind says this number, “does not include daytime quickies, drive-bys, casual gropings, stolen kisses and so on.” The Post reports that the biography is authorized. Beatty’s attorney, Hollywood heavyweight Bert Fields, says it is not. And Simon & Schuster describes the book in this way, “In this compulsively readable and constantly surprising book, Peter Biskind, the author of the film classics Easy Riders, Raging Bulls and Down and Dirty Pictures, writes the most intimate, revealing, and balanced biography ever of Hollywood legend Warren Beatty.”
Quite frankly, we could care less about Beatty. “Reds” was too long, “Dick Tracy” was silly and we skipped “Bulworth” and “Bugsy.” But we’ll be following this story to see if the typical Hollywood double standard plays out. Men who sleep around (at the rate of one woman per day) are “lotharios.” Women, well, we know the drill.
So far we’ve seen write-ups in People magazine: “Warren Beatty’s legendary gold crown for womanizing is about to get some added polish,” and O, The Oprah Magazine, which lists “Star” on its “10 Books to Watch For in January 2010″ with this brief description: “Sexy, sexist—and seductive. We mean Beatty and the book.”
And finally, what is it exactly about “daytime quickies, drive-bys, casual gropings, and stolen kisses” that they don’t count as sexual relations? It reminds us of something we’ve heard before.
Turkeys, turkeys, turkeys. They were all over the news this holiday weekend.
First, there was the report that famed film director/infamous rapist Roman Polanski would be released on $4.5 million bail and placed under house arrest to a 19,000 square foot luxury ski chalet in Gstaad. (Remind you of Bernie Madoff?) Several news reports cite French President Nicolas Sarkozy as having been “very effective” in arranging Polanski’s new deal. Sarkozy reportedly never believed Polanski, who is 76, should have been arrested for a crime he committed 32 years ago. Maybe not if the courts were just now getting around to trying him, but Polanski fled the system after being found guilty and before serving his time.
What was most infuriating was the reporting by the Los Angeles Times, the AP and others who said Polanski had sex with a 13 year old. I understand Polanski pleaded guilty to this lesser charge, but the fact is he raped a girl. Sad that the media won’t just call the crime by its name.
Next on the turkey list was ABC. The network was planning to have Chris Brown, the one who beat up Rhianna, on “Good Morning America.” Supposedly, Brown was to give a “tell-all” interview or maybe perform on the show –he has a new album coming out. I just heard, minutes ago, that GMA cancelled and Brown will appear on “20/20″ instead.
Perhaps Brown is contrite. Who knows? But it is still incredibly irresponsible of ABC to give him air time and risk glamourizing him. However, we must consider the ratings.
And the weekend wrapped with plenty of turkey talk following Tiger Woods’ low speed, middle-of-the-night, one car crash. Being human, I too posited theories of what may have lead to the crash. But I won’t share them. First of all, it’s really none of my business. Second, how could I possibly know what happened? I wasn’t there.
But what I will comment on is how quickly the blogosphere, gossip sites and sports sites jumped all over Tiger’s wife, Elin Nordegren, and the woman the National Enquirer says he is romantically involved with, Rachel Uchitel.
MyFoxLA used the headline ”Tiger Woods Drama Comes to Los Angeles” in reference to Uchitel flying out west to meet with her lawyer. SFGate, a blog hosted by the San Francisco Chronicle, points out that Uchitel lives in New York’s Meatpacking District where Glenn Close’s psycho “Fatal Attraction” character lived. And the BleacherReport.com asks about Mrs. Woods, “Is she crazy hot, or is she just plain crazy?”
So the moral of the story is: famous golfer hits a tree, media insults women. Nice.
According to a recent report from the Parents Television Council, the incidence of violence against women on television (including an increase in female victimization as a punch line in a comedy series) is up significantly since 2004. (An incident is defined as a storyline that includes victims of violence.) Consider these statistics based on primetime television (excluding news and sports programs):
*Violence on television in general is up 2% since 2004.
*Yet violence on television against women is up 120% since 2004.
*There was a 400% increase in the depiction of teen girls as victims from 2004 to 2009.
*The most frequent type of violence on the screen was beating followed by credible threats, shooting, rape, stabbing and torture.
Television is not reality. We get that. But when you consider the studies that show exposure to filmed violence against women leads to decreased perceptions of violence, you see just how damaging this sexist programming is. It desensitizes society to violence against women. That is irresponsible. The television industry is trading the value and the safety of women for ratings.
What can you do? When you see gratuitous violence against women on television, or you notice a disproportionate number of storylines victimizing women, let the shows’ advertisers know how you feel. Women control at least 85% of consumer purchasing power in this country. We can make a difference.
It is common practice in Hollywood for fashion designers to give celebrities couture gowns to wear to awards ceremonies, movie premieres and parties. The commission has determined that the stars and the designers must disclose if the dresses were given to the celebrities for free and that the disclosure must be “clear and conspicuous.” They did not, however, specify how the disclosure should happen.
One famous Hollywood stylist/reality television star said, “We will determine how to best to reveal that information on a case-by-case basis. If my client is wearing a classic dress –perhaps a Ralph Lauren –we may monogram the information onto the dress. After all, monograms are so preppy and 80s. And the 80s are back baby! If my client is wearing Versace, we will probably advertise on her chest because most of it will be showing.”
The commission also said celebrities often convey an unrealistic image on the red carpet. These images and the resulting photo spreads in tabloid magazines, give false hope to American woman that they too can look like their favorite star. When the new guidelines go into effect, the stylists who dress the stars will have to better reflect what the average woman can expect if they were to wear the clothes. Entertainment news hosts will no longer just ask, “Who made your dress and where did you get those diamonds?” during pre-awards show interviews. Now they will also ask, “Are you wearing Spanx? Do you use double-sided tape to lift your breasts? When was the last time you ate? How much foundation are you wearing? And, is that a wig?”
The new guidelines have the industry on edge. Celebrities are concerned they will be forced to reveal too many trade secrets. “What will they want next,” says one two-time Oscar winner. “For us to stop airbrushing our magazine covers?”
But some insiders see this as a positive move. “The fashion world, and the red carpet in particular, hasn’t seen any real innovation since Bjork’s swan dress in 2001. I think we will see some new trends emerge as a result of the FTC guidelines,” said Nigel Kipling, fashion director for Runway magazine. “I predict back fat, bat wings and lipstick on teeth, will be hot looks on the runway next season.”
Finally, 14 will be the new 6.
Full Disclosure: This is not a true story. But it should be.